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Book Review: The Dip by Seth Godin

So, despite how lifeless this blog appears, it isn’t entirely dead. It’s merely been on hiatus as I’ve struggled to figure out why I’m doing it, what I’m doing with it, and whether it’s worthwhile to keep doing it.  In short, I’ve been navel-gazing and procrastinating, two things I’m really good at.

Enter The Dip, a little book that teaches you when to quit (and when to stick) by Seth GodinI read it twice through and have been thinking about it ever since. It is both inspiring and maddening.  I’m grateful to this book because it is the reason that I decided to write again. It has gotten me to refocus on this blog, decide that it is a worthwhile pursuit, and give me the motivation to get through my own dip.

The point of the book is simple:

“Quit the wrong stuff. Stick with the right stuff. Have the guts to do one or the other (p. 4).”

Godin argues that being the best in the world is the thing that matters most because tremendous rewards come to those who are the best.  Since your time, energy, and resources are limited, you want to spend those wisely and the only wise way to spend them is in pursuit of becoming the best.  In order to do that, you need to quit working on all the things that suck up your time, energy, and resources but that will not bring you closer to being the best, and instead, focus those efforts on the one thing you do well that will bring you success. 

He argues that any pursuit is governed by two major curves: A Dip and a Cul-de-Sac.  A Dip happens during any worthwhile pursuit and is the “long slog between starting and mastery.”  It is the point when the fun in your pursuit disappears and you are left with the difficult, annoying, boring, or painful tasks to get through in order to succeed at your pursuit.  The Cul-de-Sac is a dead-end and it’s the situation “where you work and you work and you work and nothing much changes. It doesn’t get a lot better, it doesn’t get a lot worse. It just is.”  He argues that you need to lean into the Dip and get through it but quit a Cul-de-Sac immediately when you’re facing one to free up your resources for a more meaningful pursuit.

This is not a message that is new or earth shattering but Godin makes it fresh and sharp by making you realize that this is the only question you must ask yourself if you want to do anything worthwhile. 

But the book stops there. He’s delivered the motivational message and left it on your doorstep without any further instructions.  Ironically, it’s as if he doesn’t have the energy or desire to get through his own Dip to deliver the deeper, more complex information that would be truly useful.  Godin thinks he’s teaching you when to quit and when to stick but he doesn’t actually do this.  Instead, he just labels the two situations you may find yourself in and refers you to them. Either you are in a Dip or you are in a Cul-de-Sac.  If you’re in a Dip, then keep going. If you’re in a Cul-de-Sac, then quit.

Well, sure. If we knew the difference between a Dip and a Cul-de-Sac, we’d all be wildly successful.  But we don’t, and there’s the rub. That’s why life is hard, situations ambiguous, and we spin our wheels doing something worthless that we only recognize as worthless in retrospect and kick ourselves for quitting something that would have panned out if only we’d have stuck with it.

I therefore can’t recommend the book unequivocally.  While it has a worthwhile message, it doesn’t give you any criteria for identifying Dips and Cul-de-Sacs.  If what you need is a kick in the pants, then get this book. You will enjoy it and it will make you think. I can’t deny that the book has had a large, positive impact on my thinking. I keep coming back to it over and over to skim certain parts. In that way, it’s worthwhile because it has re-energized me.  However, if you are already motivated and are looking for Godin to provide you with a how-to, you’ll be disappointed.

Playing the Hot and Cold Game with Goals

When you were a kid, did you ever play the following game? You leave the room and your friend hides an object somewhere. You come back in and you try to find the object while your friend gives you feedback. You head towards the sofa and look under the cushions and your friend says, ”cold.” You move away from the sofa and head for the coffee table. Now, your friend says, “warmer.” You keep searching around the coffee table and eventually you find it.  In other words, you use the friend’s feedback as information about whether to continue on the path you’re on or whether to change course.  When does the game end?  It ends when you find the object.  Sure, you could give up the search, but most of the time, this doesn’t happen.  It may take a long time to find the object and your path depends on where you begin your search, but most of the time, eventually, you find the object.

I find that if I apply the metaphor of the game to achieving a goal, it changes my thinking about the goal dramatically.  A lot of people have a goal they want to achieve but instead of seeing feedback, they see failure.  They do something and it doesn’t pan out or it doesn’t bring as strong a result as they had hoped for.  This is like the friend saying “cold.”  Instead of seeing the setback as feedback, they see their entire endeavor as a failure.  Other people persist but they persist unwisely. They receive the “cold” feedback and jump right back in and do the very same thing again.  Now, you wouldn’t keep searching the sofa after your friend kept telling you that it’s still cold, would you?  But yet, people do this all the time. Including me.  The end result is frustration when you begin to feel like you’re beating your head against the wall.  Well, it’s time to stop and instead, it’s time to begin viewing the pursuit of a goal as a game of hot and cold.  Take a step in the direction of achieving your goal.  Now, listen closely to the feedback you get.  Reality will supply you with a good answer if you listen carefully.  Is it a “hot” or a “cold?”  If it’s cold, adjust your next step.  Does the next step give your more positive feedback?  Keep going.  Keep trying a different path or a different approach.

Don’t give up. Keep listening to feedback and adjust your course as necessary, but keep playing the game until you succeed.  There is no failure in this game, only feedback.